Have you had this thought lately: "OMG, another year is almost over and I'm still not where I want to be in my career?" Do you feel stuck with your success goal? If so, read on.
First things first: Did you write your goal down? If not, do it. Research shows that it's easier to achieve what we write down.
It makes sense: Written words can only come from a certain degree of clarity on what exactly it is that we want to achieve. Vague goals are not useful; they can even lead to overwhelm and frustration, and in extreme cases to discouragement and despair. Clear, concrete goals in writing give our mind something to work with, both on a conscious and a subconscious level. Clear goals in writing modify our subconscious filters. We can now see opportunities that we previously may have overlooked. Plus, seeing our goal on paper or on the computer screen also makes it more tangible and concrete, and therefore more viable and attainable.
Writing our goal down is also a way of facing it. If you're like me, you have a thousand fantastic ideas all day long, big and small. Some become goals or even projects or plans in our minds. But then life happens,... and if we don't write them down, they disappear as fast as they came.
Once you have your goal in front of you, thoughts of doubt may be creeping in: "This seems hard. Maybe this goal is too big for me. I may not be experienced enough, skilled enough, prepared enough. What if I'm not ready? I don't think I have the resources to make this happen. I don't have the right connections. I can't do possibly do this..." Or you may just feel outright fear... fear of being vulnerable, fear of rejection, fear of being ridiculed, fear of failure,... You know what I'm talking about. We often cultivate negative fantasies about imaginary threats, and it's always easy to find a reason for not taking action when we look for an excuse to stay in our "discomfort zone." (I don't call it "comfort zone" because it's not really comfortable to stay stuck, is it?)
When you experience any of these self-imposed limitations, that's when you must turn your limiting thoughts and feelings around. It's easier than you think, with what I call "Empowering What if Questions." Let me give you a few examples:
What if I could achieve this goal with ease?
What if I had everything I need to attain this goal?
What if I could ask for help?
What if I could find the people and resources I need?
What if I were more powerful than I think?
What if I were enough?
Create your own Empowering What if Questions as you move through your day and observe how this changes your outlook and provides you with better choices.
Maybe you have tried positive affirmations before, and they can work great if repeated consistently over a period of time. However, if they haven't worked for you, it could be because your subconscious programming is not aligned with your affirmation, and that's why the affirmation is rejected on a subconscious level. Positively framed questions often work better, as they open up possibilities, and our subconscious finds it easier to play with a possibility than a fact it has not experienced yet. That's why I love "Empowering What if Questions." Experiment with them and share with me how they change your perception of what's possible for you.
You have the power to change your attitude and create the reality you want to see for yourself. Your words shape the reality you perceive. Stop ruminating on worries and cultivating imaginary negative outcomes. Re-frame your thoughts, focus on positive What if questions and diminish your anxiety so you can show up powerfully at all times.
Sooo... What if you could create the success you want?